Being Obsessive & Jealous: Things Single People Should NEVER Do

Whether you're always single or you've been recently dumped (or did the dumping), there are holes that single people fall into all the time and it makes them annoying and self-obsessed friends to be around. If you're single, it doesn't mean that you lose all self-respect. In fact, being single in college can be one of the best times of your life. So calm down. You probably won't be single forever. Just let loose and have some fun, and don't get so hung up on the fact that you're single.

Don't ever...

1) Define Yourself By Your Relationship Status

All you seem to care about, or talk about, is your love life. There's a lot more to you than that. You are not just 'single'. You are also funny, smart, a good friend and an epic dancer. Just like how it can be boring when your friend who's been in a relationship forever can only talk about their girl/boyfriend and whatever cute thing they did together last night, listening to someone constantly updating you on how single they are can be super boring. Change the topic. Please.

2) Chase Someone Who's Taken

Best case scenario you break up a couple, worst case scenario you're embarrassed and rejected. They're taken, no good can come from pursuing them. Plus, even if they did return your feelings, wouldn't you always be wondering if the same thing would happen to you if you ended up together?

3) Obsess Over One Person

Crushes are going to happen and that's cool, but I'm talking about full-on stalking someone. Knowing their class schedule better than your own, where their favourite place for lunch is and what the last song they played on their iPod was. There's more to life than checking their Facebook page and following them from a lecture to their tutorial. This is a great time for you to go out and play the field a little bit. Go out and meet people, be safe and have fun. Maybe then the person you're obsessing over might notice you, which is way better than them noticing you watching them from the bushes one day.

4) Obsess Over Everything To Do With Romance

You have The Notebook and Taylor Swift sad love songs on repeat every day. You need a break. Pick yourself up and dress yourself up. You need a night out on the town. You may even get lucky. You might not meet the love of your life, but you might just have a great time. Which you sorely need like, yesterday. Not everything in your love life is going to play out like it does in the movies - movies are not real life and you need to remember this.

5) Be Jealous of Taken Friends

Maybe your best friend is a serial monogamist and they're always between hanging out with you and hanging out with their boy/girlfriend. Maybe all they can talk about is their girl/boyfriend and all the stuff they did last week. To avoid this topic of conversation - and to settle the growing green monster inside of you - ask them about anything else that isn't romantic, like study or exam results. It will get your mind off your own loneliness too.

6) Give Up Hope

Being so upset by the fact that you haven't got a boy/girlfriend that you start coming out with stuff like you should just give up and join a cult/ nunnery/ the army. You just sound pathetic and sorry for yourself. Do you really think anyone is going to find that an attractive feature in a potential partner? Remember feeling lonely and being alone are two separate things. If you're desperate for love, you will most likely be a clingy, insecure girlfriend. Use this single time to find out what you like and dislike and calm down. It's not a race. You probably will find someone who likes you and wants to be with you.  Just calm down and be yourself.