10 Tips To Help You Gain Some Confidence In The Bedroom
If you sometimes find yourself nervously shifting your way under the sheets as you settle down to do the deed, a little boost of confidence could be just what you need to turn you into the bedroom goddess you really are. It's no secret that nerves or worries can actually really affect how satisfied you can be during sex, so start with the small stuff, and before you know it, you'll be taking the reigns and finally getting the pleasure you deserve.
1. Try something new
Massage oils, a new perfume, different lighting and music can really make a difference when it comes to your confidence. As humans we all enjoy something a little different, and the excitement will give you a new lease of life for loving.
2. Buy some sexy underwear
If you've never set foot in a shop of the raunchy variety - never fear. Grab your best gal pal (or your man/lady friend) and take a chance. What's the worst that could happen? You can always leave and never see the inside of that particular shop ever again! Besides, the staff are always really lovely and happy to help you choose the perfect set to make your body sizzle.
3. Do some research
If you feel like you need to do some learning, what are you waiting for? The world is your oyster! There's plenty of literature (online and in book form) which can give you a boost of knowledge... And knowledge is power.
4. Try getting into a different character
If the thought of testing out these new things as YOU makes you cringe a little bit, you could always try a little role play. It's not as bad as it seems - we promise. Even just something like a playful outfit or pretending to meet again for the first time can really spice up your love life and give you that confidence boost.
5. Know your body
Being sexual isn't all about pleasing the other person, it's about knowing what you want and being able to ask for it. You might learn this through a little self-love or trying new things with your partner, but we guarantee they'll be so turned on by you telling them what feels good, it's definitely going to feel good.
6. Make more of an effort for sexy time
We know that work/life can make the private time you have with your partner a little rushed and sometimes you might be too tired, but make sure you both dedicate time to each other, and get a little dolled up for each other too. Even if you eat your takeaway pizza in a fancy dress (for the less clumsy folk out there), the fact that you feel good about how you look will instantly increase your self-confidence.
7. Get out of your head
It's easy to get caught up with negative thoughts during sex, but you need to make a conscious effort to stop them. Concentrate on the good feelings, the atmosphere and your partner - let yourself get lost in the moment.
8. Channel your inner goddess
Is there something you do to calm your nerves before an interview? Or if you're meeting new people, do you say certain things to yourself to stay on top form? These tactics can be passed across to your sex game too. If you want to get your Beyoncé on, you've got to work that Beyoncé attitude!
9. Learn to laugh at awkward moments
Everyone's body has made a funny noise at some point, you're not some hideous unnatural monster FYI. Laugh it off and get back on the horse... So to speak.
10. Make some noise!
Moaning, groaning, however you want to do it - sound off to your heart's content. It'll help you to get into the moment and enjoy yourself. Be careful not to piss your neighbours off though, obviously...
Just trying a few of these steps should make you feel a little more comfortable or excited about the prospect of getting down and dirty with your other half. Always remember: Life's too short to have bad sex.
Via Pretty52.com