Too Good To Be True: Signs You're The Rebound
1) Their Ex Is Still Around
They still talk to each other online and hang out for coffee. They constantly like each other's posts and their ex always seems to be hanging around. Do they have photos of her/him in their bedroom? Does their ex come around looking for favours and advice all the time? If any of this is true, they're probably not over each other. In all likelihood, their ex got jealous when they started dating you. It may even have been the reason they started hooking up with you in the first place. I know this is a grim thought, but if their ex's presence is making you uncomfortable, you should talk about it. If they really want to be with you, they need to cut it out.
2) Their Friends Are Surprised They're Dating
To be fair, their friends know them better than you do. So if they're shocked your new boo is already dating again, take a step back and try to figure out if they genuinely want to be with you, if they're using you to get over their ex or if they're trying to make their ex jealous.
3) It's All Physical
If you met them on a night out and your relationship began with a one night stand, you're probably a rebound. Most rebound relationships are all about sex and have very little emotional substance. Have they ever asked you to come over without sex being the focus? If not, maybe you need to rethink this relationship.
4) You Never Have Serious Discussions
Whenever you try to get serious or talk about deep emotional issues, they always change the subject. If they show no intention of opening up to you, it's probably because they don't intend to be with you for a long time. It might be hard to hear, but maybe they're using you as a quick fix, to help them forget about their ex and move on.
5) They Won't Commit
If they never commit to any future plans with you, like even a month away, they're probably just using you to get reacquainted with the dating world. Once they become more comfortable and confident, they could make like Snoop D O Double G and drop you like it's hot. My advice: ditch them before they ditch you. You deserve better.
6) They Talk About Their Ex... A Lot
Does your new date talk about their ex all the time? Do they somehow find a way to fit them into every conversation? Are they still upset about their break-up and always talk about it? Have they ever called you by their ex's name during sex? Those are all major warning signs that they haven't moved on. Why settle for being someone's second choice? If you're not getting what you want out of this relationship, drop them and find someone who suits you better, and whose motives you aren't constantly questioning.