Hooking up with your friend is one of the more confusing situations to be in. You like this person, they are funny and charming. Maybe they are just a great blend of awkward and sincere that made you want to be friends with them in the first place. One night, when it was just the two of you, things became tense. Maybe you were sharing a moment, having a deep meaningful conversation, or completely drunk out of your minds. Before you knew what was happening, the two of you were naked and getting all familiar with parts of their body you hadn't even thought about before. The next day your mind is reeling. Here are some questions that will definitely be going through your mind after hooking up with a friend.
1) What Does This Mean?
Are you together now? Was it a one-time thing? Right after it happens, chances are you're going to be too freaked out to have a proper conversation about it. When you're by yourself later you 'll have a chance to process and figure out if you now have more-than-friendly feelings towards them. But don't worry about it too much. They are your friend and they are trying to figure out the exact same thing.
2) Is It Going To Happen Again?
Sometimes these situations lead to a friends-with-benefits arrangement, or some unspoken agreement that if you're both single and looking for a good time you will turn to each other, like a friendly booty call. So it could happen again if you let it and want it to.
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3) What Do I Want?
Before you have the dreaded talk with them, you need to figure out what it is you want from the relationship. Do you want to go back to being friends, or do you want more than that? It's okay to have feelings for them, you cared about them before this happened, those feelings can be easily transferred.
4) Should We Talk About It?
Absolutely. It will be one of the most uncomfortable conversations you will have in your entire life, right up there with the sex-talk, but it needs to be done. Both of you will probably have been pretending that nothing happened nad will be dying to talk it out. That tension is most likely eating away at your friendship. So if you want to stay friends you need to talk to them and find out where they stand.
5) What Will Everyone Else Think?
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Probably that they always knew it was going to happen and that you were always meant to be. Or they will be shocked and confused. Regardless, this isn't about your other friends and what they think. This is about the two of you.
6) Do We Have To Date Now?
You only have to date them if you want to. There could have been many reasons for the hookup: feeling lonely, hadn't had sex in a while, you were drunk, you just felt like it. Whatever the reason it might have been a one-off. If they are interested in pursuing a relationship but you're not, you have to shut it down. You can't lead your friend on.
7) Can We Still Be Friends?
Hopefully, you were friends before so it would be great to stay friends. It might be awkward for a while and you might even get a little jealous if they start dating someone else. But, eventually everything will go back to normal. As long as you don't spread their sexy secrets around and treat each other well, there's not reason to move on. You might even forget the night that the two of you got down and dirty.
