9 Reasons It's Okay To Not Want To Be In A Relationship

Did you know that it is actually okay to not want to be in a relationship? Because that's something that you don't hear that often. Most of the time if you say you're single, people jump at the chance to set you up with their boyfriend's friend's housemate who is reaaaaally goodlooking, I swear. Little do they know that some people just don't want to be set up. They aren't interested in finding someone. They don't need to be in a relationship. And that's okay because:

1) You don't need, and shouldn't need, someone else to feel happy.

Let's face it, you're pretty fucking great. Why would you need someone else? You have so many other things going on that make you feel happy, that aren't a boy/girlfriend. You don't need someone to make you feel "complete" or whatever bullshit people say. You don't see Mindy Kaling spending her days strolling along through Hollywood with a new beau every five minutes. And she's awesome, like you.

2) You really do want to concentrate on your studies/job etc.

Sometimes this really isn't an excuse. You can actually genuinely love your course and want to do well. And that's okay, despite what people might say. Because while you're succeeding in your field after putting the work in, everyone else is still exactly where they are, trying to find that "perfect someone". Waste of time.

3) Not being tied down is fucking great.

You have no commitments. You can go traveling around the world in a second if you want, or you could bang that guy from Coppers. Because you're free to do so, and it's so liberating. You have your own set of rules and you ain't gonna change them for nobody.

4) You like yourself.

Hanging out on your own is the best. There's no one to annoy you, you always get to watch what you want and can get off whenever you want. You know what you like and what you want to do, and that doesn't involve shaving your legs because your boyfriend is coming over. Nuh uh. Can't be dealing with that shit.

5) People are annoying.

Humans as a whole are annoying as fuck. Trying to find a boyfriend is really just picking the best out of a bad lot. You however have found the ultimate solution; avoid the hassle and avoid them all. Because who needs them. Fuck 'em.

6) Fuck men.

They're dickheads who think with their dick and act like a dick. And that's me being kind. Why would you want to spend your time with a species who only talk to you if you wear clothes that reveal half your body? Natural selection is coming for you.

7) You deserve to be spoiled.

And you know who can do that? You. You know who always knows what you want for your birthday? You. You know who knows exactly what to buy you to make you smile? That's right, YOU. Money doesn't grow on trees and should be spent wisely. Invest in yourself, gurl.

8) You have other things on your mind than relationships

You can't understand how people spend their days googling how to attract the opposite sex when they could be watching Netflix or eating. Finding someone is not on your mind right now, and there's nothing wrong with that. You have your priorities sorted, you know exactly what you want and it's not a relationship. Get over it.

9) Only you know what you want.

So fuck everyone else. It doesn't matter if they're in a three year relationship and are so fucking happy, because guess what? So are you. Just because they can't understand how you can live a happy life sans a partner doesn't mean you have to spend your time searching for Mr Ah-Sure-I-Suppose-He'll-Do. Nah man. That's their problem. You shouldn't have to explain yourself to anyone. You do you.

Clodagh McMeel
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Self-confessed cat lady, Clodagh is known for her sneezing and laziness. She is most often found on the couch or in bed, usually accompanied by her laptop and pizza. When she isn't doing nothing, she studies English and French in Maynooth. But that's very rare.
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