Dating can be tricky. Trying too hard or not trying at all...both can put people off dating you. Nobody's perfect, there's no need to put someone up on a pedestal and think they can do no wrong. You deserve to be in a happy and healthy relationship and there are some things that you should stop doing to ensure you don't end potential relationships before the even start. Here are some things that push people away:
1) Over-Analyzing Everything!
Sometimes saying 'you look fine' means 'you look fine'. Sometimes 'whatever you want' means 'I honestly do not care, make a decision because I don't mind'. There usually isn't a double meaning behind every single word typed out in a Facebook message. A retweet isn't a cry for attention, it's an applause for great comedic/clever writing. By reading too much into things, you can build a person up in your mind to someone they are nothing like. This can lead you to the conclusion that they are totally in love with you, when they might just think you're cute and funny. Confronting them with their obvious feelings, will send them to the nearest exit asap. Take people as they are, not as puzzles to be figured out.
2) Have A Life
Not having interests beyond your current romantic interest is creepy. If all they can see is you being focused on them, that's going to make you look like a stalker. Don't ditch your life, friends and interests for a chance with someone you met a month ago. For all you know, they like kicking puppies in their free time. Having separate interests and a life outside of a relationship is attractive. It makes you more interesting. So get a life.
3) Being Desperate
Reeking of desperation and insecurity is a real turn off. Try not to check up on their social media accounts every five minutes. Don't constantly ask them to hang out with you and don't get annoyed when they want to have a night out with their friends. You want them to come to you sometimes. Don't force your presence in their life, back off and chill out. Unless you're trying to scare them off, in which case, well done.
4) Trying To Change Them
The only way people change is if they want to. Trying to change who you are with is not a great recipe for a healthy or a happy relationship. There's nothing wrong with encouraging someone to better themselves, or try new things but you shouldn't coach them through every aspect of their lives. You aren't their keeper. You'll either piss them off or make them think that they aren't good enough. You should accept them for who they are, imperfections and all. If you're trying to mould them into the person that you want them to be, you're going to push them into the arms of someone who's more accepting.
5) Getting Invested Way Too Quickly
If you've only been together a few weeks, you shouldn't be talking about moving in with them, getting married and having kids. Becoming clingy or too emotionally involved too soon in a relationship is a great way to push them away and back into singledom. It's great that you're excited to be with them and everything is going so well, but don't gush about it with them 24/7. You might freak them out.
6) Acting Insecure
Instead of just being happy that you're in a relationship, you constantly question it and try to find problems. When you go looking for problems, you'll find them, no doubt by amplifying something small. Just relax. They're already dating you, so they've already shown that they like you. If you've a fear of rejection or have had bad relationships in the past, this could cause you to reject them before they have a chance to reject you. So relax and enjoy yourself, starting right now.
