Ask Maxxie: Self Esteem & Sex Issues

Dear Maxxie,

Hey man, basically I need advice (obviously) lately I've been feeling really down and I've been hating my body and my facial appearance. Honestly it's starting to make me think that my boyfriend isn't attracted to me anymore. We don't have sex as much as we used to and he doesn't speak to me the way he used to. I feel like he wishes that I was skinnier, but when I say it to him he says that I'm beautiful and all that crap, but to be honest, I just don't believe it. Help me, please!


Dear A,

I don't really know you at all, but you have a boyfriend which means you're doing better than most of us single fuckers out here. So when it comes to the question of whether or not you happen to be physically appealing, well, the answer seems to be pretty straight forward if you ask me, someone obviously finds you to be as hawt as a spicy Jamaican pepper to ask you out in the first place.

Honestly though, the opinions of others isn't really what's important here, what's truly important is your opinion of yourself. First we're going to talk about your current body image issue and then we're going to run through a few possible solutions, it'll be fun because I can rant about society and shit which is always great.

First of all we have to have a discussion about you and your boyfriends recent lack of smashing. From the sounds of it, it kinda seems like you're having less sex because of, well you. And not to put the blame on you but it must be kinda hard to have sex and be in the mood if you're not feeling particular sexy right? Like even me (and I think sex is awesome), if someone tried to sex me first thing in the morning before I showered and brushed my teeth and all that suss, I'd be all like HELL NAW I'm gross. Guys love sex and I feel that if you resolved your body issue problem and became more confident in yourself, then your sex life should return to normal. The question then becomes HOW do you resolve your issue?


Essentially all you have to do is be happy with who you are and how you look. That's how average looking motherfuckers like me just live their lives with inhuman levels of confidence. Regardless of how I look, I know I'm awesome and you should be the same. Maybe you've gained weight or maybe it's all in your head, it honestly doesn't matter which one is the correct answer. Your options are simple, you can either work at how you look or be happy and content with who you are (or a mixture of both if you're feeling extra adventurous). Listen, you haven't always felt this way, so that means something must have happened recently that's triggered this sense of poor self-worth.  And if that's the case, then it also means that it's possible to change things back to the way they were. Society does a pretty good job of presenting us with this false idea of what 'sexy' or 'beautiful' is. You're not worth any less than anyone if you're kinda skinny or kinda heavy, because regardless of how corny and massively cheesy that this sounds- beauty is in the eye of the fucking beholder. We know that because we're smart ass ninjas, and you were smart enough to ask for help.
I'm not going to lie to you and say that it's going to be easy to build yourself back up, because it won't be. But it's possible and I believe in you. Now go get yourself some dick quick bruh bruh.

Yours Sincerely,

Maxxie :)

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Dafe Orugbo
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Dafe once went streaking in the middle of the day for the promise of a 4in1. He is in possession of a spectacular ass, and considers himself quite the suave "Motha-Fucka". He studies English and Law in Maynooth University, but rarely attends classes because he is; and I quote - "Too busy mackin them bishes". His love for appletini's is only outweighed by his love for appletini's. Be warned if you ever encounter Dafe in the real world, he will probably turn you to the darkside *whispers* black people...
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