It's not a fun thing to happen, but it does happen. Some asshole will start thinking that their needs are more valuable than their partners and will go out and try to find someone else to fulfill those needs. What I never understood about cheating, is that if you've agreed to be faithful to someone, why would you go back on your word? If you're not happy, why not talk to your boy/girlfriend about it? They care about you, they want you to be happy. Why not try to figure out what's wrong without fucking everything up?
The Trust Is Gone
Will you ever really be able to trust them again? Once a cheater, always a cheater. They took your heart and didn't care enough to take care of it. All they had to do was not cheat on you and they were too selfish to do that. If you forgive them and stay together, what's stopping them from doing it again? Won't you always be worried if the person they cheated with will be there? Or someone new? Can you really live like that? Constantly suspicious and paranoid? You don't deserve that, you deserve better.
They Will Never Be Sorry Enough
If they come up to you and admit what they've done and are extremely sorry, that doesn't mask the fact that they betrayed you. Although fair play for fessing up. Most cheaters won't until they are caught and use the whole "I didn't want to tell you because I didn't want to hurt you" excuse. Pure and utter bollocks. Many people say that cheater's will cheat until they are caught. They get like a 'cheater's high' which can be addictive. There's a rush of adrenaline they get as they feel they are getting away with something. As long as their boy/girlfriend doesn't know, no one is getting hurt and they don't need to feel guilty and so can go on enjoying the high. Can they really ever make-up for that betrayal?
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They Don't Love You Enough
This is the hardest pill to swallow, but it's the truth. If they truly cared about you, they wouldn't have done it. It wouldn't even have crossed their mind, because the only one they ever thought of was you. I'm not saying that if you love someone you'll never be attracted to another person, that happens. But whether or not you act on that attraction is the issue. If you really cared, you wouldn't suppress your feelings of love for your boy/girlfriend in order to be with someone else. You just wouldn't. Your girl/boyfriend would be enough. If they use the excuse that they felt neglected or they have needs that you weren't meeting, that's them manipulating you into thinking that it's your fault and you were in the wrong.
Pressure To Move On
Cheaters often don't want to dwell on their mistakes and so if you take them back, they'll assume all is forgiven and everything is alright. Often you won't be given time to get over it, because they'll assume it's done and dealt with. They hurt you and you need time to heal. If you are seriously considering staying with them, please take some time apart and see what else is out there. At least give yourself time to come to terms with their betrayal. You don't owe them anything. They screwed up. If they really want to make things right, they should wait for you to be OK with them again. But chances are they are complete douchebags who don't care about anyone, but themselves so they will just get pissed at you for getting hurt. But they might be the exception to the rule.
You'll Feel Like Shit
Staying with someone who hurt you, who doesn't care about you as much as you care about them with the constant threat that they could do it again, is soul destroying. There's now an imbalance in the relationship. They either will want to make-up with you and do everything they can to make it better or they will try to pressure you to get over it. Why stay with someone who hurt and betrayed you and who makes you feel like crap because you clearly love them more than they loved you? Why not go out and try to find someone who will treat with respect and love? Do what you feel is right, that's the most important thing.
