Just when you think you're over them, up pops a photo of them with their new hot girl/boyfriend. Like they were just waiting for you to go online and see how happy they are without you. How are you really supposed to get over them, if they're still able to fill up your newsfeed and tempt you into snooping on their profile? Here are some reasons why you should unfriend your ex:
1) It's Not As Hard As You Think
You're literally one click away from not having them clogging up your newsfeed. If your split was amicable, of course you want to appear mature and don't want to seem like you can't handle being friends with them. If that's the case, you don't have to unfriend them, maybe just unfollow them. If you don't care at all what they think and you just want to forget them, block them. You can always unblock them in the future.
2) You See All Their Major Life Events
New relationships, their new job, new apartment, moving to a new city. Everyone's life seems a little more perfect online than it is in real life. So, you're getting a viewing of the perfect version of their life, but you're not in it. Not only are you not involved, you know that they probably aren't even thinking about you because everything else is working out great for them.
3) They're Now Doing Things They Never Did With You
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Often after a breakup, you forget about your inhibitions and do all the things that used to scare you. When you were in a relationship you could relax and be yourself, never getting out of your comfort zone if you didn't want to, even if your partner tried to pull you out of your shell. Which is why it can be so upsetting to see photos of your ex out and dancing with someone else, when they would never go out with you, or travelling abroad when they never showed any interest in going travelling with you.
4) You'll Compete With Them
If you are constantly being notified about all their new friends and fun nights out while you're stuck at home, you're going to get miserable and jealous. Either you're going to try and make them jealous and start going out more trying to get their attention or you'll fall back in love with them because you can no longer have them...
5) If It Was a Bad Breakup, You'll Constantly Relive It
Whether they cheated on you, broke your heart or turned out to be completely different to what you initally thought, every time you see him/ her online, you'll relive every single painful minute of the relationship fallout. That's not great for personal growth and moving forward.
6) Out of Sight Out of Mind Is True
If you don't see them every day, your mind will become free of them. Other people will take up your thoughts. True, for the first few days or even weeks you'll still think of them. You're still getting over them, after all. But it will be a lot easier to forget about them without being reminded of their existence every single day.
7) It's Not The End of Your Friendship
Yes, you probably need some time apart and right now, seeing them online isn't very healthy for you. You might check their profile after an unsuccessful date or just because you're bored. You might hope that they can see all of your updates, even if they don't comment on them. But you need to move on. Maybe you'll reconnect in the future when your mind isn't still reeling from the breakup. For now, maybe you should consider unfriending them, for your own peace of mind.
