It might seem to many to be the ideal scenario, you get to hang out with your friend and sex as well without serious romantic feelings getting involved. However, they don't last forever. Either they end amicable, with you both not talking to each other or you end up in a relationship. Here are some signs that your friends with benefits isn't working out and you should end it before things get too messy...
1) The Sex Is Just Too Good
Which is probably the reason why it's been going on for so long, but now you can't stop thinking about them and you want to be around them all the time. Sex is a huge catalyst for romantic attachments. If that's not what either of you wanted you need to back off and maybe shut it down for a while, maybe see other people?
2) Jealousy Issues
If one of you can't handle it when you go off with someone else that needs to be addressed. You weren't committed to each other so it shouldn't have been an issue, but if you don't like sharing then you shouldn't have gotten into this situation in the first place. Maybe you've developed more feelings for them without realising it. Now you've got to see if they want more or if you should break it off.
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3) The Friendship Has Disappeared
Before you slept with each other you talked to each other all the time, you hung out and had movie marathons, you went out for coffee together. Now, it's awkward and both of you don't want the other to get the wrong impression about what you wanted from the arrangement. Maybe you're just not that into the benefits side of things anymore but are sticking it out to avoid a fight and potentially losing your friend. You miss your friendship, maybe it's time to get it back.
4) You Want Different Things
Maybe one of you wants a relationship and the other is happy with how things are, or maybe one of you wants to go back to how things were. If that's the case you might have to walk away from it. It's not fair for only one of you to get their way, you both deserve to be happy after all. If the person you're with wants to know where you stand, you better figure it out.
5) One Of You Gets A Girl/Boyfriend
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If you were exclusive this can happen super easily. If you're not into being someone's second choice or their bit on the side then you might as well walk away and as long as you don't harbour any negative feelings fro them, stay friends.
6) Someone Broke The Trust
Maybe you got with someone they absolutely detest, or they got with your sister or one of your best friends. Maybe they spilled some of your bedroom secrets or maybe you revealed some of theirs. Whether or not you're sleeping together, the friendship is still there so you should still act like a good friend, i.e. keep their secrets and don't get off with their enemies or family. If one of you does the benefits and the friendship might be gone for good.
7) Fighting
If you've started bickering over things like couples would, maybe you need some time apart. They are your friend with benefits, you don't get to nag them. But they are your friend, or at least they were. It might be time to back out of this thing before you lose them for good.
