Ever hear of being 'sexiled'?
If you live with other students, chances are you have at least come across the concept – even if you were unaware of the term until now. It basically means getting locked out of your own home so that your roomie can get in awn with their significant other/a randomer, and, unsurprisingly it drives people MAD.
Just like this person...
Yup. Most cases of being 'sexiled' involve feeling awkward tip-toeing around your kitchen the following day, or whatever. But this Reddit user had a pretty extreme experience... and she ain't happy about it.
She writes:
"My roommate brought her boyfriend to our room with no warning at about 12:30 yesterday.
"I left for class and came back an hour later to them half-naked and cuddling. I exchanged a few things and left in a hurry, but I needed to go back to change my clothes at 7:00.
So far, so okay, right? But it gets worse...
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"I knocked for privacy, and when my roommate let me in it was obvious that I had interrupted them having sex, but she acted angry with me for knocking instead of just walking in, specifically saying "I'm not exiling you." (?!?!?!)"
She added that the whole situation made her feel uncomfortable at the time – but even more so later on:
"That meant I had to change my clothes while there was a naked man five feet away (I went behind a curtain, but still), which made me extremely uncomfortable," she said.
"I told the guy to be gone before 10 and didn't come back until 10:30, at which point both he and my roommate were gone. She returned while I was sleeping and left the next morning while I was at breakfast, so I haven't seen her since, and suspect that she is deliberately avoiding me.
"I really don't give a fuck what her and her boyfriend do when I'm not around, but I was effectively locked out of my own home for 9 hours and put in an extremely uncomfortable situation. She's been a flawless roommate up until now and I don't want to ruin our relationship, but I'm fucking furious right now."
Yikes.
The responses were pretty supportive of the roommate
One wrote:
"You need to set ground rules. Tell your roommate that she needs to tell you a few hours beforehand when she's having someone over, and also give you an estimate of how long she's expecting to use the room for."
While another took a somewhat more... pragmatic... approach
"It's your room too. Just walk in and start doing your homework or whatever. Make it awkward for them."
Sounds legit, right?
