The only dating rule that you should ever keep is, be a decent person. Don't impose your beliefs on another person, be honest and be open to having a good time. Some of these archaic dating rules are so outdated and unnecessary that I don't even understand how they came to be the norm. They don't aid your cause in any way. Really they only work in theory, only if you see dating as a one-sided thing. If you realise that dating means there's a whole other person involved - who has the same fears and desires as you - things should become a little clearer and easier in the dating world. Everyone just needs to calm down and not be so dramatic. Here are 6 dating rules that need to be broken;
1) The Guy Should Always Pay
Why? Granted I do love being treated to something every once in a while, I deserve it. But I love dishing out the goods too. Why shouldn't girls pay every once in a while? You're both broke students, maybe working a part-time job. You both want to be there, for the most part, why shouldn't you both pay?
2) Three Date Rule For Sex
Waiting to have sex until the third date does not make any sense. Have sex when you feel like it. That might be ten minutes into the first date or a month after you've started dating. It might even be before you've actually gone on a date. Three is such an arbitrary number that someone clearly decided would be a good idea for a relationship guide and it got picked up the world over. If you're both into it, why stop yourselves?
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3) Pretending Not To Care/ Playing Hard To Get
This just stems from a complete and total fear of rejection. Believing that as soon as the person knows that you genuinely care for them, means that they have complete and utter control over you and your feelings, or that it will take away the mystery and the thrill of the chase. This is only an issue if you're dating an obnoxious dick. Why would you even want to be with someone like that? If you end up getting serious with someone they're going to get to know the 'real you' so why pretend to be something that you're not? Shouldn't you want to be with someone who likes you for who you are?
4) Knowing Everything You Need To Know From The First Kiss
Complete and utter bullshit. Maybe it's a bit controversial but that's just wrong. What about the bit before the kiss? The sexual tension right before your first kiss. That shit is real. That's all chemicals swimming around in your brain, your heart flutters with a spurt of adrenaline and you feel breathless with excitement. If you have that and don't kiss, that just makes the longing even better. When you do have your first kiss depending on the circumstance, it can be either great or shit. You both could have been nervous, or drunk. Please don't believe that all you need to know about a person is how they kiss. They could be an excellent kisser but a completely racist Nazi. Never forget that.
5) Best Way To Get Over Someone Is To Get Under Someone New
No. Every break up is different. Sometimes we need time just to be single to sort out our feelings and figure out who we are again. Then other times you just are over it. You shouldn't need to get laid to get someone off your mind, you should be able to do that by yourself. I'm not saying don't go out and get some, do (and be safe doing it) if you want to. Do it for you, not to prove a point to your ex or some arbitrary rule that shouldn't mean anything to anyone.
6) Waiting To Call
Really? What's the point? If you like someone and they like you, why are you insisting on playing games with them? It won't make you seem desperate if you're just sending a text or whatever. If you enjoy talking to them, then why not talk to them? They might be waiting around for you to call. Why hold yourself back? Why not go for someone you think is great, they might feel the same and then things could get awesome.
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