Why do we worry about so many things all the fucking time? It's like we enjoy being miserable. In fact, almost 40 million adults in the United States are affected by anxiety disorders. That's 18 percent of the entire population! So I want you to make like Bob Marley and "don't worry about a thing." Here are 7 things all 20-somethings worry about, but so shouldn't.
1. Romantic Relationships
Alright, here are some statistics to ease your worried soul. Facebook reported in 2013 that "about 28 percent of married college graduates attended the same college." That means that almost a third of people in America marry someone they knew in college. However, (this is where it gets optimistic) half of marriages don't last. OK, that's not a good thing, but I know I find comfort in those statistics. If half of all marriages fail anyway, none of us should fall into society's pressure to be in a romantic relationship. Enjoy the hell out of beings single! (It's way more fun and a lot less expensive than divorce.)
2. What Other People Are Doing
As you get older you'll start to see people reach significant milestones. This old school friend is having a baby, your freshman roommate is getting married. The guy you used to hook up just got a job at Google. Instead of freaking out, I want you to relax. Your life is going at its own pace, and that's okay. The only person you have to compete with is who you were yesterday.
3. Figuring Out A Career Path
I used to dedicate a lot of my time worrying about my career path, but I've come to realize that do so is a losing battle. All it does is stress you the fuck out and set you up for disappointment. You know what you should be doing instead of worrying about your future job? Having fun and following your passions. That is the only way you can find a career that you're happy with.
You're broke AF and that's completely fine. As long as you're able to feed yourself and pay rent, everything's grand, I promise. You'll figure everything out later. For now, save whenever you can and don't feel guilty about splurging on festival tickets or a trip to China.
5. Their Body
You know what? You are sexy as hell, and it's about time you realize that. Some social scientists actually say that others see you as 20 percent more attractive than you think you are. You know why that is? Because they don't just see the 2D version of you that you see when you look in the mirror every day. They also see your personality. And that makes you fucking beautiful. So stop worrying about your body and focus on what really matters- who you are on the inside.
6. Their Appearance In General
News flash: it's OK to look "bad." As long as you take care of yourself (e.g. shower, eat decently healthy, brush your teeth), who cares? We all, guys and girls, spend too much time wondering if we are attractive or if we look socially appropriate. So, go on. Don't shower for a few days. Wear the same clothes you did yesterday. Forget the makeup every once in a while. I'm not judging.
7. Other's Perceptions
I'm going to tell you the cold, hard truth: people will dislike you no matter what. No matter what you wear, how you act, or what you say, people will judge you negatively for it. But there is an upside to this as well: there will be people who love you no matter what too (shout out to my amazing mother). So why waste your time being anyone else but who you are? In the words of Andre Gide, "It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you are not." Preach, Andre.
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