I feel over the years romantic comedies have slightly distorted some 21st century women and mens thoughts. Now, things that women and men think are normal to expect from a relationship are very far fetched. Love at first sight, mind reading and gooey one-liners are top priority when they realistically would never happen. I blame Paramount. I blame 20th Century Fox. And, I blame you Pixar. The love portrayed in films such as You've Got Mail, Pretty Woman and Maid In Manhattan, to name a few, have created ideas in our head that will never happen. Your relationship shouldn't contain these golden rules or it shouldn't make you believe "that anything can happen". Because even if you're a hooker, a rich man will soon arrive and sweep you off your feet. This isn't going to happen. We need to filter our expectations to match what human beings are actually capable of. To knock you off your pink horse with your Prince charming, here are the reasons Why Your Relationship Shouldn't Be Based On A Romantic Comedy.
1) They Lie
These romantic comedies are never based on true stories. Why you ask? It is because these things would never happen. Unless your boyfriend made up the line "Life is not the amount of breaths you take, it's the moments that take your breath away" (Hitch), my case is closed.
2) Mind Reading
These notions in TV series and Rom Coms that men and women should know what the other one is thinking isn't the most sane concept. Unless you claim to be the Psychic in George's Street Arcade, I am not sure how this is all possible. Women implying in shows and films, like The Hills, that a man should know what you're thinking, is false advertisement.
3) Meant To Be
Not everything is meant to be. Yes, nothing should be forced but it is just a load of philosophical sh*te. Meant to be this, meant to be that. Just get on with it - none of this future telling. Just give it a go or leave it all together. Stop whining about it.
4) Fate & Destiny
It must be fate. Destiny will prevail. You have got to believe. Everything is just so complicated and so over dramatic. Let's all just take a step back and view the reality of the situation.
5) Never Get Over That Someone
The idea that this man or women you meet in your twenties is your soulmate needs to change. You could have many loves of your life and these movies make it out like you will never get over that boyfriend. People move on and find other partners, so, don't hold on to your first love just because the movie told you too.
6) Always Rekindle The Romance
Even if you have moved on with a new wife/husband and five kids, that person you went out with for those two weeks 10 summers ago is worth it. Give it all up and go for gold. These unreal expectations further instill this soppy, magic love within us. You don't have to always go to that person. Plenty more fish in the sea I say.
7) Love At First Sight
If you are under the impression that you have to find someone you fall in love with at first sight, you are a bigger fool than I thought. This kind of stuff doesn't happen often, if even ever. Just relax, calm down and realize you are only 22. There you go, much better.
8) One Liners
This epic one liners do not happen in real life. "To some people, love doesn't exist unless you acknowledge it in front of other people" from Valentine's Day or "I think I'd miss you even if we'd never met" from The Wedding Date. Normal people wouldn't say things as cringey or mind boggling, trust me. You are barking up the wrong tree here.
9) Declarations Of Love
No boyfriend/girlfriend is going to stand up on top of a Starbuck's counter and tell you how he is so in love with you and he wants the whole world to know it. Public proposals are as far as you'll get. Stop fantasizing, it ain't going to happen.