First dates can be anything from exciting and spontaneous to awkward and boring. When the conversation starts to die, we sometimes tend to start talking about the first thing that comes to mind. It might be an idea to keep certain things to yourself when we're on a first date such as:
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Money
Finance is a no go when it comes to first dates. Please for your own sake do not ask someone how much they earn, it's personal and just not cool. Chances are, if you bring up the topic of finance on a first date, there won't be a second!
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Your EX
It's never a good sign when you're on a first date and you start to speak about your ex. It screams, 'NOT OVER THEM'. Who wants to go out with someone who is still in love with or not over someone else. No one wants to have to compete for your attention and just remember, there's no good ending to a conversation about your ex.
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Personal Gossip - Work, Family, Friends
There may be something going on in your office that is really bugging you and you just need to vent and that's OK, however, a first date is not the place to do so. I'm sure your date really doesn't want to listen to you talk about how Michelle from the sales team keeps using up all the tea bags and not replacing them for 20 minutes! The same goes for any other gossip regarding family or friends! Keep in mind gossiping is never a good look on anyone.
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Sex
There's nothing wrong with a little flirting on a date but be sure to gauge your date. First impressions are important and you don't want to come across creepy. Whilst flirting is OK to do, talking about previous sexual encounters is not. Unless its an exceptionally funny story!
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Marriage
Yes, most people date with the intention of falling in love and eventually getting married. However, you've just met this person, don't scare them away by telling them what time of the year you want to have your wedding! This is the type of thing you talk about with a partner when both of you are ready. NOT after a few cocktails with someone you've just met!
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Politics & Religion
Politics and religion are a tricky topic to talk about because they can be very personal and people can take offence quite easily. It's probably best to keep these conversation topics at bay until you know the person a bit better.
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Insecurities
On a first date, you want to make the best first impression you can. We all have flaws and we all have insecurities but do we really want to put them on show for our date to see? Just remember that nothing looks better than confidence so let yours shine through!
