Anyone who has loved and lost can tell you that relationships have their dark sides. To go through a rough break-up or to be hurt by a close friend can leave a person disillusioned. To better deal with those harsh realities and to anticipate them before they can hurt you, be aware of these 8 hard truths about relationships:
1) At the worst times, you can be abandoned.
When you go through some serious shit in your personal life, you might not be the most fun person to be around. It's at moments like this when you see the true worth of those around you: solid people stay, the douches will show their true colours and drift away.
2) Some people need to be cut out to improve your life.
A cloud of negativity can form over our heads sometimes and we can't quite place where it originated. This can be because of the people who surround us, undermining us, belittling us, or simply draining us with their constant negative diatribes or lack of energy. Your wellbeing improves immeasurably when you cut these people out completely.
3) Harsh words are a moment in the making, but last a lifetime.
They trip off our tongues, those venomous words, our critical thoughts magnified by intense emotions. But while you might later forget that cruel comment you made to someone after the red fog of rage has lifted, the person you insulted might never forget it or let it go. And they'll always associate that scar with you.
4) Resentment is emotional poison.
It serves no useful purpose, and the only person it hurts in the end is yourself. Don't hold onto it and you'll immediately feel a weight lift off your shoulders.
5) Excessive jealousy does not tell someone how much you love them.
It merely shows how possessive you are, like a spoiled child who refuses to share their toy. If you love them, then you should have no problem letting them out in the world to do their own thing.
6) Sometimes people don't even realise their words are insincere.
At the peak of infatuation or passion, you might just think that you really can care about someone that much and that it will never change. But then something fades, and if there is no commitment and sincerity behind those former feelings, a relationship will wither before your very eyes.
7) Needless confrontation is just that.
When you're facing an argument you both know is pointless, you need to remind yourself that it's best to just walk away and avoid unnecessary damage being done.
8) People will do what they can get away with.
It's an ugly fact that people enjoy feeling more powerful than others, and some folks will use you as a human doormat until you make a stand and show them that they can't. This can be from friends, partners, bosses, and even family members. Stand up to them sooner rather than later.