Is He Not Interested? Reasons He Isn't Asking You Out

Every time you run into him he's happy to see you. He cracks jokes, flirts slightly and seems to really enjoy your company. He may have said on more than one occasion that you're funny and smart and great. It feels good. It feels like he's attracted to you. Soon, you find yourself attracted to him. You look forward to running into him or spending time with him. But his mixed signals are confusing, is he flirting or is he being nice? If he is interested, then why hasn't he asked you out?

1) He's Interested But Not Interested

He likes flirting with you, but that's it. He isn't interested in taking things any further. This back and forth flirty banter was all he wanted from this 'friendship'. He never lied to you, and honestly does think that you're great and a catch, you're just not the type he wants to date. This sucks for you because now you're attracted to him. Sorry.

2) He's Involved With Someone Else

Some guys are just the flirty type. They may not even realise that they're flirting. They're charming and sometimes take things too far without meaning to. Or maybe he genuinely is interested in you, but doesn't want to put himself or you in a compromising situation. He respects his partner, and you, so he wouldn't want to cheat with you on them.


3) He's Getting Mixed Signals From You

You might be playing hot and cold without realising it. One minute you're all enthusiastic to see him, but then you try to act all cool and aloof. This is a confusing play. How is he supposed to gauge how you feel? It's better to be more open and frank. You don't have to declare your feelings for him, but maybe lay off the 'hard-to-get' vibe, you might be putting him off.

4) He Doesn't Want A Relationship

He's enjoying flirting with you and might even be up for a little hanky panky in the future, but he's wary of suggesting it because he isn't interested in getting serious. Maybe he knows that you could be a great girl/boyfriend but he doesn't want to get involved in a relationship in college. So, he's keeping you at a distance. This means you can either pursue him and convince just how great you could be together or forget it and find someone who's interested in you being their college romance.

5) He's Waiting For You


Not everyone is confident enough to put themselves out there and show that they're interested in someone. Maybe he's waiting for you to ask him out. To be fair, why are you expecting him to do all the work? If you want to date him, why not ask him out?

6) He's Afraid You'll Reject Him

Maybe he thinks that you're just being friendly, maybe he thinks that you'd never be seriously interested in him. If you really like someone but aren't convinced that they like you, it can be easy enough to convince yourself that they'll reject you. Why risk what you have right now - the fun flirty banter - with the potential to make it really awkward?

7) He's Not Actually Interested At All...

You could be reading into his actions too much and he might not be interested at all. He might just be a nice guy who likes charming people. It might have never even occurred to him that you'd ever be interested in dating him because it's the furthest thing from his mind. Maybe you're not his type, or maybe he has never thought of you as a potential sexual partner. And maybe he never will until you suggest it to him...unless you're afraid of being rejected that is....

Rebecca Fox
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Becky Fox is a fun loving foxy lady who will never apologise for who she is. All about girl power and Lara Croft cosplay. A freak in the sheets and a bitch on the streets. Don't cross her, she has enough wit in her pinky to reduce you to tears. Fan of beanies and sunglasses and doing whatever, or whoever, the fuck she wants.

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