December is the month where your Facebook feed fills with engagement posts. February has gushing of affections thanks to Valentines Day and then between the two is poor old January, which has unofficially been crowned National Break-Up Month. According to a Yahoo survey, twice as many break-ups happen in January than any other month. Here are some reasons why January is the biggest break-up month;
1) Out With The Old, In With The New
At the start of the new year, many people feel the need to clear out their life. They re-evaluate where they stand in relationships. You might realise that there's something new about your partner - some new hobby they've become interested in for example - that really changes your opinion of them. If they've been unhappy for a while, but not facing up to it, this might be the time when they face up to their problems and accept that they want something, or someone, different to who they're with right now.
2) The Relationship Went On Hold For The Holidays
A lot of couples, especially in college, might not see their significant other over the holidays. Between family stuff and holiday traditions there isn't a whole lot of time to have a big relationship conversation. So they leave it until after the holidays are over, when all the little fights start trickling back into the relationship and you both go back into the usual routines that you've grown to hate.
Maybe couples have already bought presents for their partner before Christmas and even if they aren't happy in the relationship, they still care about them and want to give them the presents - and receive some in return. Callous as it sounds, many people, who want to break up with their partner, might hold off until they get their holiday gifts.
4) You Didn't Want To Ruin Christmas
No one wants to be the Grinch at Christmas. If you've been in a committed relationship with someone for a while, you don't want to ruin the holidays for them. So you'll stick out Christmas and New Years, but you'll want to break-up before Valentine's day comes around, who wants to be dumped before Valentine's day?
5) You Hoped Christmas Would Fix Things
Many operate under the assumption that the fairy lights and Christmas presents will somehow magically fix how you feel and everything will go back to how it once was. However, if things just aren't working out, as soon as the decorations are brought down all you'll be left with are your problems and you'll have nothing to distract you from your unhappiness and the fact that the person you're with isn't the person you thought they were, you've grown apart maybe.
6) It's Cold & Miserable Outside
Not a great scenario for a shaky couple. If you're cold and miserable it's going to trickle down into your relationship. It's not the happiest time of year, everyone is broke from Christmas break and on diets so are cranky and short-tempered from a lack of food. Many couples might just break-up from the stress of it all.
If you've resolved to be a happier person and treat yourself better, what better place to start than your love life? If you're not satisfied there, you might decide to try the single life for a while. But before you make any rash decisions, be sure this is what you want. Be sure that this isn't just a rough patch that you are too lazy to work through, because if you want them back in a few weeks time, they might not want to get back with you. If you're honestly unhappy in the relationship, then you don't need to put up with that, you're young, you don't need to be tied down in college if you don't want to be.