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It's Not The End Of The World: 8 Kinds Of Breakup You'll Go Through In College

Breakups suck, but they aren't the end of the world. No matter who breaks up with whom, it's never a great experience. Recovery can take its time and toll on your quality of life. You can't go certain places in case they're there, you don't like eating certain things or watching shows that remind you of them. But it's not the end of the world. One day, it could be tomorrow, next week a month from now or even longer, but one day you'll wake up and not be bothered by it as much. The reason for the breakup hurts but the relationship taught you something about yourself - maybe that you hate selfish lovers or cheating pricks. The breakup might have been the best thing for you at the time. It's all up from here, promise.

1) The 'He/She Cheated On You' Breakup

First things first, you breaking up in this situation is great for you. You no longer have to deal with an unfaithful confused partner who wasn't able to be honest with themselves, let alone you. By cheating on you, they showed who they truly are and that you deserve a whole lot more. The person you were dating lacked emotional maturity. He or she was definitely not what you expected and was definitely not what you wanted or needed. So, why waste anymore time being with them? Now is your chance to find someone who can make you happier. You should be happy that your girl/boyfriend messed up so spectacularly, they missed out on something great and did you a favour.

2) The 'You Cheated On Them' Breakup

Mistakes happen and no one is perfect. Sometimes because of distance (emotional or physical) we can stray or be tempted or there could have been something deeper going on. It’s not like you woke up one day and decided, “today I think I’m going to sleep with someone else.” On the other hand, maybe it was if you're a cheating dickhead anyway. Maybe you cheated because you fell out of love with your girl/boyfriend, and your wandering eyes opened you up to that. However, you will have to come to terms with the fact that you hurt someone and that they might not forgive you. Maybe though, you're saving both of you a world of pain by ending it now, instead the alternative was just hanging around because you were afraid of being alone.

3) The 'You Aren't Feeling It Anymore' Breakup
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It happens. You could have been dating for a while and at first it was great but now the spark is long gone. You no longer look forward to hanging out with them, it's a chore, a forced habit. Before you couldn't wait to see them and hanging out and doing nothing was fun, now you dread it. Even your sex life isn't as thrilling as it was. This doesn't always happen, usually after a while couples get comfortable with each other, not bored, which are two completely different things. If you’re bored, just leave. Doing so prepares you for your next relationship, shows you what you want and what you don’t want. Plus, it's not fair to stay in a relationship where the other person is in love but you're not anymore. Ripping the band-aid off is the best course of action. They can find someone else who loves them back.

4) The 'You Haven't Dealt With Your Past' Breakup

Something happened in the past, either with this relationship or a previous one, and you haven't properly dealt with it. It's not good to bury stuff deep down, that shit resurfaces when you least expect it. If your trust was broken in any way, it can be hard to fully trust someone else again, you'll always be afraid of getting hurt once again. You shouldn’t take your past out on a new relationship, but sometimes, you just can’t help it. It can be especially difficult to move on when it involves the same person you're dating. Sometimes, stuff is just hard to move on from. Why dwell on a past you cannot change? If you can’t get over it, end the relationship. It will save you both many arguments.

5) The 'The Relationship Was Toxic' Breakup

Whether you were the toxic one or they were. No one should be romantically involved with someone who literally sucks the life force out of them, like some kind of romance vampire. Caring for someone too much is a problem when the other person doesn't seem to care at all. You should be with someone who is proud to be with you and not hide it, and you deserve to be with someone who holds you in high regard but isn't placing all their hopes and dreams in your relationship, that's way too much pressure for a relationship.

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6) The 'You Fell For Someone Else' Breakup

Like the 'You Cheated On Them' breakup, this sucks but it happens. Sometimes referred to as 'emotional cheating', falling for someone while you are still with someone else sucks for everyone involved, especially if the person you fell for is interested in you too. Without even meaning to, you've broken three people's hearts at once. In this situation, it's best to stay honest and end things in your relationship and not drag it out, out of a sense of duty or obligation. You fell for someone else because something was lacking your relationship. Now you have the opportunity to find someone who can bring what you want and need to a relationship and your current partner can find someone who's better for them.

7) The 'You Weren't Ready For The Next Step' Breakup

Sometimes relationships can move faster than we're ready for. One of you could be ready for the next step and the other is just not there yet. For example, moving in with each other, leaving your college course/career to join them abroad for a job etc. You should always move at your own pace, unfortunately your pace could be faster or slower than your boy/girlfriend. The plus side of separating in this situation is that it relieves the pressure you might have been feeling. Now you have the opportunity to find someone who is more your speed.

8) The 'Mutual' Breakup

This is pretty much self-explanatory, neither of you wants to be in the relationship anymore, for whatever reason. This is probably the best breakup scenario ever because both of you get what you want. Everyone wins! No hard feelings for anyone! Just keep it clean and move on. A breakup may feel like the end of the world, but only temporarily. It's only the end of one world, one scenario. Once you accept that your breakup wasn't the worst thing imaginable but actually a chance for something new, you can go to your ex’s profile and know that he/she was never the right fit for you anyway.

Orlaith Costello
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Orlaith is a Creative Writing graduate from NUI Galway. Hailing from the low lying fields of Athenry, or at least what’s left of the low lying fields. She enjoys the internet as a means of living vicariously through others from the safe confines of her own bed. She will initiate a dance off after at least two drinks on any given night out.

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