I agree. It is much easier to be negative than it is to be positive. An idiot can be negative. But in fairness no one likes Goths. I am aware that there is a difference between pessimism and realism as well. However, a lot of people have an extremely pessimistic view of what they deem realistic. There are a number of processes that you can employ to make your outlook on life much more enjoyable.
Without meaning to sound like a deluded hippy who is stoned off his tits, I genuinely believe in the Law of Attraction. In simple terms, the Law of Attraction dictates that your life (what you do/ what happens to you) is a direct result of your thought processes. We've all heard the expression; “You make your own luck”. I genuinely believe we do.
I cannot stand to be around negative people. People who complain about how shit their life is yet do nothing to change their circumstance. If you sit on the couch all day eating crap, watching television; it is highly unlikely that things are going to magically fall into place for you. It’s like bro, you've eaten 12 packs of Meanies in the last hour and you smell like shit. Get out and live. Here are a number of steps that can change essentially change your life for the better.
Question Your Negative Thoughts
I’m guilty of it too. A lot of the time when I see someone or something I don’t like, my initial reaction is massively negative. The next time you have a negative thought you should consciously challenge it. If you are alone you should even verbalize it.
For example: Something good happens to someone you know. They do brilliantly in an exam. Your initial thoughts are jealousy as well as a list of reasons why they don’t deserve what they have achieved. In this instance you should ask; “Why am I being negative? I should be happy for this person”.
Leave Your Comfort Zone At Least Once a Day
“Life begins at the edge of your comfort zone”. This is a daunting prospect. However, the most negative people I know are those who never venture into the unknown. Try new things*. Meet new people.
*This is not an excuse to do a fuck load of drugs and ruin your life.
Stop Bitching About Everything
I feel this is the most important tactic in this rearrangement process. Everybody and everything has positive and negative attributes. Don’t dwell on the negatives. Don’t even take them into consideration. Focus on the positives. Try to focus on other peoples positive qualities. They might be a complete freak but always give them the benefit of the doubt. There is a very apt quote; “Small minds discuss people; Great minds discuss ideas”.
Surround Yourself with Positive People
Surround yourself in like-minded people. Cut out the negative people you associate with. They’re low lives. They are selfish and lazy. They don’t want to see you do better than them. This should act as an incentive for you to do your absolute best. Always remember, a positive attitude is infectious.
My Advice: I began utilizing these techniques over a year ago. Since then my life as I knew it is a distant memory. I am happier and just generally a nicer person to be around. I have also realized that chicks dig positive people.
Stay Positive. Stay Golden.
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